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Meetings and Psychological Safety (and the Recognition Seeker)

Look at me! Look at me! How much attention do some people need? Well, Recognition Seekers focus discussions on themselves or seek out sympathy, and apparently they need a lot. There is a difference between the people who talk about themselves productively and are deserving of sympathy and the people who are attention mongers. Imagine

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Meetings and Psychological Safety (and the Latecomer)

A quiet, ninja-like entrance followed by slinking into the open chair that is closest to the door all to avoid drawing attention to their tardiness. A signing on after the meeting has started with camera and microphone off. A grand entrance followed by a justification for the late arrival that really is just an excuse.

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Meetings and Psychological Safety (and the Horseplayer)

I raise my hand. I claim it. I confess. I’m guilty. Truth – we all have annoying behaviors that derail meetings. Maybe you are an Advocator, Attacker, Blocker, or a Dominator (or another type I’ll write about in the coming weeks). Me? I’m … weIl … um … I’m the Horseplayer who uses humor to

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Meetings and Psychological Safety (and the Dominator)

Ever had the experience of sitting in a meeting and someone won’t let you talk? If you haven’t, you just might the person not letting others talk! There are all sorts of annoying meeting behaviors that derail meetings (Advocator, Attacker, Blocker), but this week we address the Dominator behavior. Dominators try to control meetings and

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Meetings and Psychological Safety (and the Blocker)

Do you find it annoying when people say these things in meetings? “That won’t work.” “We’ve tried that before.” “We can’t do that.” “Can we circle back and reconsider X.” “I’m still not sure we made the right decision.” People like this are Blockers and their behavior sabotages meetings. Blockers frequently raise objections and circle

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Meetings and Psychological Safety (and the Attacker)

Who comes to mind when you read these words? Aggressive Mean Bully Humiliator I think of a boss I worked for who was extremely forward with his thoughts and ideas. If he didn’t like your idea, comment, or question, he told you so without any social grace or emotionally intelligence whatsoever. It stung. It was

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Meetings and Psychological Safety (and the Advocator)

Years ago in a meeting,  one of my coworkers snickered and rolled his eyes at something I said.  I shut down. Why did he do it? He did it because he was allowed to. No one told him to stop being a bully. No one told him was being unprofessional or that his behavior was

Does Psychological Safety Exist?

I fix broken things: bad communication, disengaged employees, unproductive teams, and leaders that no one trusts. Is my effort futile? Does psychological safety really exist? Yes. Yes, it does. Let’s celebrate one such workplace. My previous coworker (and friend) Becky was assigned a massive project.  The type of project that determined if the organization she

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Should Have Kept My Mouth Shut

It was an all-day companywide off-site meeting.  Every single employee had to be there. The purpose-- give input on organizational goals and challenges. We were put into random groups of eight persons.  One person in our group came up with what we believed to be an incredibly innovate idea.  So, we put our idea forward,

Practicing What I Preach

I’m three weeks into having a summer intern and things aren’t going perfectly. “I’m so sorry.  I was up at 6 AM worried because I didn’t get it done.” The first week I was all chill and encouraging–inside and out.  “No worries, we are figuring things out,” I said. “Oh, I forgot you needed it