Conflict and appreciation: an interesting pair! There are people, who when feeling threatened, are going to try to get you to show your appreciation for them, because they have a need for attention. Lots and lots of attention sometimes! Brinkman and Kirschner describe this behavior as requiring “a higher level of assertiveness and a people focus, in order to be seen, heard, and recognized.” p.19
I write this with a genuine affinity for these types of people … because I am one! However, I’m not ready to reveal exactly what I do in conflict just yet. Watch the video first!